December 2007

December 09: Best Birthday Weekend Ever AKA I'm Engaged!
December 30: Three Weeks Later

December 9

Best Birthday Weekend Ever AKA I'm Engaged!
I'm in love with the bestest, sneakiest, most wonderful man in all the world. Friday night, he made sure that there was a little birthday party in my honor, shared with a other birthday guy who is a good friend of mine. He made reservations at The Keg, and, including me and him, there were sixteen people at the table. We had a great waiter and a great time. Afterwards, we went back to the Nexus II to continue to the party.

Saturday the 8th was a weirdly emotional but ultimately cool day. I had a pedicure and manicure with Miriam. Then her car broke on the way home... as in the crank shaft fell off the car. This was bad in an adventure kind of way. No one was hurt. I called Jeff to come rescue us and he did. After taking Miriam home, we got me some dinner and hung out at the house for a bit before heading to my condo.

I was still in my crocs (open toed sandals that Jeff bought me in Hawaii) and I went to go tell him just how wonderful the shoes were and that I would probably wear them a lot more in the summe when he suddenly sent me back to the family room. I was surprised and curious. I knew he had something special planned for my birthday but I didn't know what. He called me into the living room. I turned the corner and found him standing in the middle of the completely empty living room (where all my living room furniture is to go when I move in this week) in a heart made of rose petals and a trail of rose petals leading up to him.

My thought was, "Awww. He's being romantic and welcoming me into his home. I love him. He's so awesome." I walked up to him and stepped into the heart of rose petals with him. There, he told me just how much he loved me and could not live without me and it wasn't until he was reaching into his pocket and going to one knee to ask me to marry him that I realized what he was doing.

Of course I said yes.

I was so happy and so shocked. He totally got me. Totally. You see, Jeff and I have been discussing marriage for a very long time. To the point that we have already been to a jeweler's to start designing custom rings for the two of us because I'm not overly fond of diamonds unless they are in a vintage setting and I wanted a moonstone engagement ring. This was all great. He was willing to have that for me. However, Jeff put a stipulation on the official proposal: It could not happen until we had met and talked with both families. Thus, Thanksgiving to meet his family and Christmas to meet mine. He's been hinting at a New Year's proposal for weeks now.

Tricksy man and all mine.

Apparently, he called my parents over a month ago to get permission... even before we started designing our rings... and had a nice long talk with my parents. Especially with my growly-bear dad. They ALL managed to keep it from me. Even my mom, who continued to fuss and act unhappy at the whole "just moving in together without anything else" thing. Even after I hinted that things would be fine to her. Tricksy parents!

I did say yes. I didn't cry though my eyes welled up. Then I remembered that I had my engagement ring for him. You see, I don't think it's fair that only girls get engagement rings. So, I bought my honey one, too. Here are pictures of them:

My engagement ring:

Jeff's engagement ring:

Jeff and I wearing our rings:

Aren't they gorgeous. These are the rings we will wear on vacations so we don't lose the really expensive platinum and diamond ones that we are having made for us. Yes, this gorgeous vintage .32 carat VS1 diamond engagement ring is my 'placeholder engagement ring' until our custom ones are finished. Then, I will wear it on my right hand. I am the luckiest girl in the whole world. I got a fiancée for my birthday.

I totally won.

And I just now realized that I can stop being a freak about my family trip and know that all the growling and worrying about my parents not liking Jeff is just worry and dumb. It's going to be a great Christmas. It totally is.


Tarot Card for the Day: Six of Wands Inverted

December 30

Three Weeks Later
It's been three weeks since my birthday and my engagement to my fiancé and a whole lot has happened. Short version: I've moved to Bothell, we visited my family for them to meet Jeff and I finished my Chill contract (at least the first draft of it and that's what counts).


On the moving side, despite everything, the move was relatively painless as moves go - and I've had a lot of them. That doesn't mean there were problems. There were but they got solved to my satisfaction. I believe, at this point, there are only four boxes that have not been unpacked completely. Two pantry, one closet and one in my office. The two pantry ones are still around because there isn't room for them. The closet one is a "stuff" box, is sitting on the "stuff" table in the living room and I'll get to it sometime in January. The one in my office was unpacked and has been repacked with old filing and random computer parts/literature that I'm not willing to toss out but I don't use - yet. Eventually, it will be closed and stored somewhere.

Not bad all in all. Except for one small problem. While it is unpacked, it is not all organized to my satisfaction. For example, my books... not alphabetized. It took me over a year to do so the last time. I'm hoping to get it done during the month of January. I need to redo all of the clothes in my drawers and closets and, while the kitchen is pretty darned good (thanks to the room mate), there are bits to it that I need to get done.

I foresee a "To Do" list of the house in the future. However, this does not make me unhappy.


For the last few weeks I've been writing my little heart out to get my Chill contract finished. It's due on the 31st and it will be turned in then. However, that is a lot of words. Part of the tight deadline was my fault. I admit it. I procrastinated and, honestly, I work better to a deadline. Much better. I'm proud of the work I'm put into the contract but man, am I going to look forward to not working on anything but TEoP and Amazon gigs for the month of January.

OK. That's not precisely true. January is my "Agent Query" month. I need to write appropriate emails and letters to all of the agents I'm interested in and have my first 50 pages of the four completed books ready to go in case any of the agents are interested in any or all of them.

Plus, I have to do all of the beginning of the year Edge of Propinquity stuff. Moving 2007 to the Archives, getting the 2006 Guest Author stories down, setting up the 2008 stuff, making the new year announcements and all that jazz. Not to mention, write the first Kendrick story of 2008.

On top of that, until I find a decent QA contract, I'm going to be asking for prodigious amounts of freelance work from Amazon to make sure that I can cover the bills now that my Sabbatical Writing Year is over. Oh, yeah. Somewhere in there, I have to sell my condo. Busy-busy January.


The big deal was the five day trip to North Carolina for my immediate family to meet Jeff and give him the once over. It was a good trip. Fun but stressful. It is hard to be "on stage" for days at a time. Jeff had it worse but he worked off nervous energy by playing hard with my nieces so I could spend some quiet quality time with my family. I love my nieces to pieces but boy, do they ever show me that I do not want to be a parent. And they are good girls. Very well behaved and disciplined. (I keep saying that they are in the military already - they just don't know it yet.)

In the end, my parents approved of my husband-to-be and Dad even called Jeff "son" once. My dad's favorite gift was the puzzle that Jeff got him. It was the sleeper hit. Both parents like his politeness and manners and his willingness to help. I do, too. He makes me so happy.

By the end of the trip, we were both so glad to be home. We both felt like we had finally finished finals week exams (mid-terms were at his family for Thanksgiving) and now, we're just waiting for the graduation (wedding) ceremony.

Btw, if I don't do a lot of talking about the wedding planning and stuff, it's because I'm avoiding as much of it as possible. We'll be married in Las Vegas. We're going to have two receptions - one in the Bay Area and one in Seattle. I will post the wedding information webpage URL when I have a lot more information. Right now, it is going to stick to me, my sister, Jeff, the CA reception planners and Heather (the one I will be venting to).

I will do an end of year reflection post in a week or so. I hope everyone has had a very good holiday season.


Tarot Card for the Day: The Seven of Wands

Continue on to: JANUARY 2008
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